It’s often said that success can be learned. And it can. But perhaps not in the traditional way. We must listen to our inner feelings; our emotions. And then use them to our advantage.
Our emotional intelligence article provides five tips on how to develop your emotional intelligence. So that we can be more successful. And happier. Unlike your IQ, your emotional intelligence is elastic; you can work on it. We divide the process up for you, proceeding step by step.
The five elements of emotional intelligence
Recognising and accepting our own feelings. This ability is crucial to understanding our own behaviour and motivation. Instead of being at the mercy of our emotions and fighting or avoiding them, we should be aware of the fact that we can actively control them
Handling our emotions in such a way that they’re appropriate to the situation, instead of dramatising or trivialising them. This includes the ability to pacify ourselves and alleviate any feelings of anxiety, irritability, disappointment or insult and reinforce positive emotions. This helps to overcome setbacks and stressful situations.
Influencing emotions so that they can help achieve our objectives. This is the key to self-motivation and encourages creativity as well as the frequency of successful outcomes. It also enables us to delay short-term emotional benefits and enticements and suppress impulsive reactions. Patience is a virtue: this longer-term perspective forms the basis of every success.
This is the key to understanding human nature and forms the basis of interpersonal relationships: someone who appreciates what others are feeling can recognise the signals often hidden in their behaviour at a much earlier stage and determine what they need or want. But be careful: empathy is a value-neutral ability. It can also be used negatively, for manipulation, for example. Nevertheless, it’s considered to be the basis for successful societies.
Handling relationships or the art of managing relationships essentially consists of dealing with others’ feelings. It forms the basis of seamless cooperation in almost all professional environments. It’s also a prerequisite for popularity, appreciation and integration within a community.
Using this knowledge correctly
These five skills are the key components of emotional intelligence. You’re therefore able to actively manage situations and are not at the mercy of your emotions. Some writers describe emotional intelligence as the antithesis of the traditional concept of intelligence. In fact, it’s an extension of the traditional notion of intelligence, in which simply cognitive and purely academic skills are considered to be the prerequisites of a successful life. And it’s really worth trying to extend this. For increased motivation and greater success.
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Published 29.09.2017 © Brandsoul AG